What If It Didn’t Exactly Matter?

What if: it didn’t matter what you did?

What if: what they were telling you didn’t matter?

What if: they were right about what would work, but it didn’t suit you?

Ok William, what are you talking about?

Do you ever feel that everything you hear on how to lose weight, how to get fitter, how to get better is just BS?

Yeah me to sometimes. Maybe even what I’m writing right now, all BS?

What if it didn’t matter exactly what you did, but just that you did something?

What if it didn’t matter listening to the experts, but to start to listen to yourself?

No, not that voice that tells you to sit back on the couch to watch TV. But the voice that says, I would really like to go play a team sport, or go climb that mountain, or whatever your heart, your inner voice, your inner child is saying.

I mean who doesn’t love to be told to go the gym and feel like you’re trying to kill yourself for what, seeing the same morbid people in the gym doing the same as you; doing what we’re told to do by the experts!

What if you went out and did the thing/s that you wanted to do?

We can do that William?  Do you think you can? Really, do you think you can?

If your answer was, “Um well I don’t know?”

Stay in the gym with that feeling of death creeping up on you, like a good little girl or boy.

Or do as your heart desires, get out and just do what you want.

Yep, climb that mountain, start boxing, start latin dancing, and yes go be a body builder if that’s what you want.

Find out what you want to do, work out how to start to make it a reality and then make it become true for you.

We only get one chance at life, and this is your life. Not someone else’s. It’s yours! You get to decide, yes you. You get to make you happy, it’s not reliant on someone else’s decision. Only you. YOU! YOU! YOU!

You are more likely to live life, feel better about yourself and lose the weight you desire by being relaxed about your situation and doing something that you love and enjoy. The alternative is not the same, taking someone else’s advice, never doing what you want to do, and living out someone else’s expectation for you.

What if you changed your whole life that way, and just consulted experts to help you solve a problem, when you had one. Rely on yourself, listen to yourself and trust yourself. Will you make mistakes, yes! But you will learn from them, and be better for it.

NOTE:  Please understand the risk associated with what you choose to do, use experts and consult your GP (medical practitioner) if there is elevated risk factors to yourself.

NOTE:  No offence to all those who love the gym, I was only using it as an example. I in fact love the gym, especially for the water fountain talk and maybe those weight thingys. No offence meant to the genuine experts in the strength and conditioning industry, who honestly care about their clients, there are too few of you.

 

You owe it to yourself, to be healthy, to be fit, to live life.

Thanks for reading,

William…

“Live Life!”

 

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An Action Plan For Weight Loss This Year – Part 1

An action plan for weight loss this year. Sounds great. What do you mean William?

Well I’ve written about numerous topics over the last month or so, we’ve just entered a new year, and who wouldn’t want this year to become a successful year for them, especially in the weight loss, healthy lifestyle category?

Ok, down to business, or this case weight loss. Yes this is going to take some work, but when does anything just happen?

I’m going to break the year down into 12 months, pretty simple right? 12 little periods to institute and perfect just one thing – a concept, an idea.

I’m going to give you an outline for 12 smaller goals, 12 little focus points, 12 new healthy habits, that will be added to each other so that by December 31 at the end of this year you will have created a new healthy lifestyle for yourself.

Easy, NO! But well worth it. This will take effort. Will you mess up? Yes. Will you have difficulty applying it? Yes. But after 12 months you will have changed your lifestyle completely.

Confident? I am, I have the easy part, I’m telling you. Yes, you have the hard part, implementing it and improvising it. This will be a journey if you accept it like no other, you will discover things about yourself, and you will adapt to suit your limits and situation.

Before you start take some photos of yourself, and measure your weight. Remember to take photos and measure your weight each month to keep track of your results.

Month 1: January – Cardio.

That’s right CARDIO. All you have to do this month is CARDIO EVERYDAY! Regardless of the conditions or whatever life throws at you. What I want you to do is 60 minutes every day. That’s all 60 minutes, 1 hour. But what happens if my neighbour’s dog changes it’s profile image on social media, and I can’t do my 60 minutes cardio, because of this emergency? Really? If there is an emergency, that’s ok, the idea is to get as close to 31 days for 31 days. But if you can’t, well you can’t. But where do your commitments lie? Make the commitment to change. If you can’t do the full hour just do less. 1 minute isn’t really working out. I would say nothing less than 15-20 minutes.

The rest I’ll leave up to you. That’s right, you choose what kind of cardio. Please don’t try to do something to crazy and end up hospitalising yourself. Work within your limits. Start slowly and pace yourself.

31 Days of January – 60 minutes Cardio.

 

You owe it to yourself, to be healthy, to be fit, to live life.
Thanks for reading,
William…
“Live Life!”

 

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Get Through The Holiday Season

Well even though the holiday season is about half way over, I was considering how to make it through without gaining too much weight. Well, gaining no weight, preferably!

Yes, easier said than done. But realistically what would it take to get through not just a day but through a holiday season?

 

  1. Plan. Without prior consideration and planning, you will eat whatever you like, whenever you like, and however much you like. So even though this period is a time for enjoyment, to keep the scales at bay without control or the consideration for what is likely to happen, you are doomed to fail.

So plan, prepare and organise yourself, so you don’t get caught out.

 

  1. Strategies. Have strategies in place to combat the constant temptation. Remember you won’t always be at the mercy of your own decisions, you will also be at the mercy of other peoples if you go visiting. So have strategies ready for what types of food you are going to avoid, how much food you are going to consume and so forth. Don’t forget it’s the holidays, this doesn’t have to be a spartan existence! Eat, be merry, just don’t over do it.

 

  1. Relationships. Remember that this time of year is meant to be enjoyed. Yes go visit, yes enjoy yourself, live life. Focus on socialising and having fun with people, not eating and drinking.

 

  1. Control. This whole period will be a success or failure dependent on the amount of control you exert. If you eat and drink to excess, you won’t achieve your goal of: not gaining weight. But if you control yourself, stay focused and consciously choose what, when and how much, you will succeed.

 

  1. Slow Down / Chew. Slow down when eating. The reason most people overeat is because they eat too quickly. So, slow down don’t eat so quickly. Another reason why people eat so quickly is that they don’t chew their food enough. When you chew your food, chew it until it becomes a fine paste. Not 2 chews, done, swallow. Eating like that will only result in poor digestion.

 

  1. Water. Yes drink more water! Another major reason for overeating is that we eat when we are dehydrated. So when you start to feel hungry drink a glass of water. Wait 20 minutes and see how you feel. Also limit your alcohol consumption. Drink water instead. If you’re like me and don’t drink alcohol, and prefer soda, that’s ok, but limit it to 1 or 2.

 

  1. Alcohol. It’s important to drink liquids, but realise alcohol dehydrates you. It also lowers your ability to make good decisions. And finally according to research, many people have a tendency to binge when drinking. So back to point 4 “Control”, stay in control.

 

  1. Exercise. Now don’t forget to exercise. No I don’t mean hit the gym for 3 hours doing high intensity sprints with weight lifting, straight after lunch. No! What I mean is, make sure to fit in that exercise session, yes it might have to be a lighter easier session because you’re between eating, but just don’t forget to do it. Maybe you’ll need to schedule it early in the day, or maybe later on in the evening. Whatever works for your particular situation.

 

  1. Self-Talk. Remember to be conscious of your self-talk, the way you speak to yourself. Be patient and be supportive. Don’t be negative and dismissive of yourself, the situation you are in and the efforts you have done. Stick to your plan, and your strategies. Talk yourself through each day and each moment. There will be temptation, and you will be tested.

 

  1. Enjoy Yourself. This is the season of celebration. Remember that this time is to enjoy yourself, to have gratitude for all that you have. Treat yourself and others with the respect you deserve.

 

You owe it to yourself, to be healthy, to be fit, to live life.
Thanks for reading,
William…
“Live Life!”

 

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Believe And Overcome Fear

Do you question if what you’re doing to lose weight is working. Whether your commitment and sacrifice is helping to achieve your goal. Nobody likes to waste their time, energy and especially money on things that will only bring them disappointment.

We all have fears and doubts, but where is our level of confidence at?  Usually pretty low if we can’t keep motivated, if we can’t see a brighter future, if we can’t see ourselves achieving our goals.

Why is that? A regular reason is that we over-estimate what we can achieve in the short-term and under-estimate what we can achieve in the long-term. What does that mean?  Basically we get demoralised when we don’t achieve our goals overnight, but can’t see with committed action that we will get there in the long term.

It’s easily said that we should have courage, and act despite our fears and doubts. But how do you have courage, and act in faith when you’ve never experience this before?

Belief in your own abilities is the only way that you will overcome this. How will you achieve this? You need to convince yourself that you can do what you want to achieve.

Your self talk, that is, how you talk to yourself, is a very big reason why people succeed or fail. Many people are so negative towards themselves all the time. Do you know anybody like this? Maybe yourself?

You can’t just decide to change your self talk, and then just change it. It’s a habit that has been formed, rehearsed and practiced over a long period of time. So changing your self talk isn’t going to happen overnight. But with consciousness to what you are saying to yourself and not accepting negativity towards yourself, you will start to change and become better for it.

If you want to learn to change your self talk, look to read a copy of Emmet Fox’s book: The Seven Day Mental Diet: How To Change Your Life In A Week. This book is great for understanding and changing your self talk.

Another way is to find success stories of people achieving their goals. It’s a great way to re-motivate yourself when you become low and distressed. One great success story for weight loss  https://www.vox.com/2015/7/7/8877041/losing-100-pounds where a man lost 100 pounds (45kg) in weight in one year. Click on the link and read it for yourself. Inspiring.

There are many other success stories like his out there. Just search “weight loss success stories”.

Another way, could be that you use a hypnotherapist to help smooth the path so that you can take action easier. Or you could purchase a hypnosis product to listen to daily, to help change your mindset for weight loss. Both of these methods work, the growing testimonial and scientific evidence that hypnosis has proves that it isn’t just witch doctor voodoo. Hypnosis is a legitimate method for changing your mindset and beliefs on a subject.

 

You owe it to yourself, to be healthy, to be fit, to live life.
Thanks for reading,
William…
“Live Life!”

 

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Can You Diet And Party?

As someone who is writing about weight loss, a question came to me today, that is especially important at the moment. Yes, yes, I can hear you say, the question is the title: “Can You Diet And Party?”

It’s the day before New Year’s Eve, and at this time of year for many people across the world, it’s a PARTY time of year.

So, can you diet and party? Is it possible? Can it be done?

Hmm, as I think. Well if I was to say, party, I mean party. Not some half effort. Not some kill-joy attempt. I mean party!

So how do you party? What do you do when you party? When you let loose, have fun with friends, how do you party?

Do you need to drink and smoke? For many people when they socialise, one can’t live without the other. And to go further, when out with friends or out being social, how much do you need to drink or smoke or whatever?

Is there a requirement that needs to be met for you to tick off “fun”, on your party list?

A minimum amount of alcohol, bad food, drugs and so on, on that “fun/party” list?

Do you NEED these things to party? Can you not do without them? Are you addicted to them?

What is your definition of partying? Does it state levels of consumption? Or is it about socialising with the people you love and care for?

Maybe by just being conscious of your definitions and your requirements, you might start to curb those things that aren’t really needed to be social and to party.

Maybe you will be more conscious of what you should be valuing more.

How is it that our definitions and requirements to meet those definitions, are so misplaced? Where did they come from?

I suppose, with becoming more conscious of these matters, you can change what you need. And so, actively have a great time, party, and still keep your diet in place, without destroying your confidence in yourself in the process.

 

You owe it to yourself, to be healthy, to be fit, to live life.
Thanks for reading,
William…
“Live Life!”

 

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Weight Loss: Would You Like It Or Do You Need It

Where are you at with your weight loss?

Are you losing all the weight you desire as quickly as you desire, with minimal effort?

Doubt it. Why do I say that? Well it’s like this, you are either losing the weight or your not. You are either in the it’s never happening and I’d like for it to happen column, or it’s a priority for you, it’s almost an obsession for you and nothing is going to stop you from achieving it, because you NEED IT! Feel the difference!

This is a very hard concept to live out in our lives. So many distractions, so many bad influences, so easy to cheat and so forth. But come to think of it, so easy to focus on our weightloss, so easy to remove the bad influences, so easy to have no options to cheat. It’s all about setting ourselves up to win.

We know our weaknesses and how we distract ourselves. The problem is, we prefer these things we don’t want more, than the weightloss we so desire. OUCH! Yeah that stung a bit. So how do we cure ourselves of it?

I don’t know? You tell me! How can you remove these distractions and bad influences? How can you set yourself up to win this battle?

One thing most people don’t realise is that we don’t focus or think about our goal enough. Take a few minutes to think about this. How much do you think about something your obsessive towards? How much do you think about something that is absolutely boring to you? See the difference.

If you started to think about your weightloss everyday, multiple times per day. How much more would you NEED IT! Would it start to become more of a priority? How can you start to think more about your weightloss? Here’s a better question. How can you ‘remind’ yourself each day to think about your weightloss?

If you took away bad choices, removed all or most distractions, and really set ourselves up to win, and thought about our weightloss each day, maybe even multiple times per day, while taking multiple actions to lose weight each day, how much better would our performance be?

That’s the difference between wanting and NEEDING. When you need something, it’s a priority. You continually focus on it, think about more ways to improve or better ways to further your goal to completion, that is, to lose that weight.

So now I’ll leave you with the same question I started with:

Where are you at with your weightloss?

 

You owe it to yourself, to be healthy, to be fit, to live life.
Thanks for reading,
William…
“Live Life!”

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It’s All In Your Mind – Part 2

Welcome back to Part 2 of:  It’s All In Your Mind. I have been discussing the battle of the mind and how we can be our own worst enemy with the way our thoughts negatively criticize us.  To Find Part 1 please click here.

An All-Or-Nothing Mindset

This is actually the basis for perfectionism. To all-or-nothing people, the world is either black or white; no gray areas. To them, it’s either you’re perfect or you’re a failure; no in-betweens. “Oh, that pizza has just ruined everything in my diet plan. There is no way I can keep this dieting program functional. I’ll always be fat.” But has it ever crossed your mind that the problem may not actually be in your behavior but with the foundation of the dieting plan itself? Why doesn’t it allow for some pizza? Rather than giving up pizza for good and always feeling bad about it, why not have a way to make it part of the menu in a healthy manner?

 Good Foods Vs. Bad Foods

Let’s face it: foods can’t be good or bad because they never misbehave by themselves. Well, I’m not trying to run away from the fact that some foods are more nutritional or fiber-dense or nourishing than others. What we’re saying is: you can enjoy any food responsibly if you decide to. How we label food as either bad or good can have a major impact on both our eating habits and the amounts we consume. For instance, by labelling French fries as bad, they have become taboo for many. So, if you succumb to their allure you may end up over-doing it.

So, what is the solution? Avoid this dichotomous labelling of food as good or bad. Be flexible enough to have some allowance for all foods without too much judging. Rather than hating French fries and considering them so unhealthy, why not gain the satisfaction of enjoying them in moderation?

 Body Size Distortions

Don’t dwell too much on how thin or fat you see your body. Instead, see your body in terms of how much it can do for you. Don’t stand in front of a mirror solely so as to zoom in on your five-months-pregnant-looking stomach and whine about it. Tell your mind to look at your body in terms of how much life it has given forth to, how it allows you to go wherever you want, how it allows you to enjoy fun, etc.

PARTING SHOT

While we can’t fully still the mind-talk going on inside our heads, we need to acknowledge the presence of the negative self-critical statements and understand that they have very little in common with our actual reality. If you can believe this and be aware of its negative impact on your life, then you can learn to respond to these little voices with a coping, more objective mindset.

Listen more to the more compassionate, reasonable and caring voice in your head. Just like your would empathize and sympathize with a friend, be a close listener to your own inner voices. With such a positive mindset, chances are that you’ll start seeing more positive outcomes in your weight loss journey sooner.

Remember, this battle will start to be won right there in your own mind!

You owe it to yourself, to be healthy, to be fit, to live life.

Thanks for reading,

William…

“Live Life!”

 

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It’s All In Your Mind – Part 1

If you come to think of it keenly, the weight loss battle is mostly fought and won or lost in the mind. I am sure you have had these questions cross your thoughts: should I consume the entire buttered corn muffin or would it have been a smarter idea to have margarine, or better yet, jelly? Actually, why am I eating the muffin in the first place? Isn’t it so full of calories and saturated fats? Why am I such a pig? Why do I always find myself with absolutely no willpower?

With such negativity and self-defeating mind-talk, it’s no wonder you’re going to find yourself eating all your buttered muffin and even topping it with some slather jelly. In your mind, you convince yourself that you’re trying to quiet the negative reasoning.

If you’re having this moment, then what you actually need isn’t just a diet plan but also a way to replace all this negativity with a more adaptive, positive approach, both in your mindset and in deeds. And, like any other thing worth doing, you’ll need some bit of practice.

The first step involves your becoming aware that you’re engaging in negative self-talk whenever it happens. Then, you also need to determine what about such thoughts is faulty and how to replace all of that with a self-defense mind response or coping self-statements.

For instance, in our buttered corn muffin example above, rather than believing it when your mind mislabels you as a pig, respond by appropriately labelling yourself as human and pigs as animals. Tell your mind that being imperfect — which is humanly normal — doesn’t make you a pig but an imperfect human being!

Let’s face it: you can’t change your own diet habits unless you change your distorted negativity-leaning thoughts about food! It’s as simple as that. You have to replace that self-critical mindset with productive thinking. But just like you would expect of any ingrained routine, you’ll have to work really hard, be consistent and remain patient if you have to taste positive fruits.

Below we discuss some of the main mindset distortions you need to work on:

“Should” Declarations

These are mostly about the values of others rather than the ones we’ve chosen ourselves to adhere to. As a dieter, such assertions reflect your attempt at keeping yourself motivated yet with no conviction that that is exactly what you should be doing. Instead, why not take a personal initiative to find out what really adds value to your particular situation. For instance, tell yourself: I’m going to be eating up to two Hershey kisses per day and I’ll thoroughly enjoy them.

Thankyou for reading Part 1 of It’s All In Your Mind, if you enjoyed reading this so far and would like to complete reading the whole article:  please click for Part 2 of It’s All In Your Mind.

You owe it to yourself, to be healthy, to be fit, to live life.

Thanks for reading,

William…

“Live Life!”

 

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