Welcome back to Part 2 of: It’s All In Your Mind. I have been discussing the battle of the mind and how we can be our own worst enemy with the way our thoughts negatively criticize us. To Find Part 1 please click here.
An All-Or-Nothing Mindset
This is actually the basis for perfectionism. To all-or-nothing people, the world is either black or white; no gray areas. To them, it’s either you’re perfect or you’re a failure; no in-betweens. “Oh, that pizza has just ruined everything in my diet plan. There is no way I can keep this dieting program functional. I’ll always be fat.” But has it ever crossed your mind that the problem may not actually be in your behavior but with the foundation of the dieting plan itself? Why doesn’t it allow for some pizza? Rather than giving up pizza for good and always feeling bad about it, why not have a way to make it part of the menu in a healthy manner?
Good Foods Vs. Bad Foods
Let’s face it: foods can’t be good or bad because they never misbehave by themselves. Well, I’m not trying to run away from the fact that some foods are more nutritional or fiber-dense or nourishing than others. What we’re saying is: you can enjoy any food responsibly if you decide to. How we label food as either bad or good can have a major impact on both our eating habits and the amounts we consume. For instance, by labelling French fries as bad, they have become taboo for many. So, if you succumb to their allure you may end up over-doing it.
So, what is the solution? Avoid this dichotomous labelling of food as good or bad. Be flexible enough to have some allowance for all foods without too much judging. Rather than hating French fries and considering them so unhealthy, why not gain the satisfaction of enjoying them in moderation?
Body Size Distortions
Don’t dwell too much on how thin or fat you see your body. Instead, see your body in terms of how much it can do for you. Don’t stand in front of a mirror solely so as to zoom in on your five-months-pregnant-looking stomach and whine about it. Tell your mind to look at your body in terms of how much life it has given forth to, how it allows you to go wherever you want, how it allows you to enjoy fun, etc.
While we can’t fully still the mind-talk going on inside our heads, we need to acknowledge the presence of the negative self-critical statements and understand that they have very little in common with our actual reality. If you can believe this and be aware of its negative impact on your life, then you can learn to respond to these little voices with a coping, more objective mindset.
Listen more to the more compassionate, reasonable and caring voice in your head. Just like your would empathize and sympathize with a friend, be a close listener to your own inner voices. With such a positive mindset, chances are that you’ll start seeing more positive outcomes in your weight loss journey sooner.
Remember, this battle will start to be won right there in your own mind!
You owe it to yourself, to be healthy, to be fit, to live life.
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